We’ve been buried in adoption paperwork these past few months, so all my computer time has been dedicated to work or paperwork. To give you an idea of how much time we’ve been spending on paperwork, Carson sat down at my computer recently and started typing and said, “look, Daddy, I’m adopting!”
I’ve had several people check in with me lately about where we are in the process, so I wanted to share an update. And thank you to each person who has asked us and said you are praying for baby J. We’ve needed those prayers lately because my patience has been reeaaaaalllllyyyy tested these past few weeks. More on that at the end.
We’ve been fingerprinted for our background checks. We also turned this into a date. Nothing says romance like being checked for a criminal history!
We’ve all had physicals, including a TB test. Carson has his TB test first and he didn’t cry, so I had to act like it didn’t hurt at all. Ouch.
We had our inspection by the local fire department completed. Carson was sitting in the living room and two fire trucks pulled up with real fireman (his words). He was in boy heaven. They let him crawl in, try on their hats and drove off with the lights flashing. I’m sure our neighbors thought I had burned the house down, but it was Christmas morning for him.
We have been on top of all our appointments and paperwork, but unfortunately we are now at the mercy (and speed) of the government. We had to have a clearance from each state we’ve lived in, so we had to complete Tennessee, Idaho and Maryland. Idaho sent our paperwork back via email after about two weeks; Tennessee sent it back electronically six minutes after our social worker submitted the request. Maryland, oh Maryland. Apparently it takes SIX WEEKS for our paperwork to be processed (it’s an Adam Walsh background check, so literally one piece of paper for each of us). And THEN we have to wait on them to snail mail the clearance back to our social worker. I had called to check on it one afternoon at work and instantly just had that “i’m about to break down in tears moment.” This was also the same afternoon where a potential baby we had been approached about had also fallen through, so the timing didn’t help. Now we have no choice but to laugh about the inefficiency of the government. And I’ve also called again to keep checking on it in the hopes that they will mail it out so I quit calling them! According to their six week timeline, it should be processed by the end of September because they received it mid-August.
Everything else is completely done and our home study can be finalized as soon as we have that piece of paper. Once Holston completes our home study, we will send our home study and documents off to FAC for them to process everything. Our profile book has been ready for weeks. I’m hesitant to say this because my previous timelines have been completely off, but we should be “active” by the end of October. Then we will begin the waiting process until we are matched with an expectant mother/parents!
So there’s where we are. I would like to say a big thank you to our government and the state of Maryland for being completely inefficient! Nick said this just confirms why we left Maryland and moved back to Tennessee. I guess this should just prepare us for the waiting that will happen when we are presenting our profile and waiting to hear if we’ve been chosen. I may have an entire head of gray hair by Christmas!!
Carson has officially named baby J: Bocephus. Bocephus booger head if you want the full name. If only we had had that name before our adoption shirts were printed!!